Life tip: If you want to feel good, tell a bunch of people that you are making some big resolutions next year, you don’t have to do them, just say you are going to. Science says it feels the same as actually doing it!
In another example of the laziness of the brain, when you tell someone you are going to start exercising regularly and they say “good on you!” you feel just as good as someone saying “good on you!” after you’ve actually lost weight. Its the classic case of having your cake and eating it too. The downside is if you actually want to change, since you’ve already claimed the good feeling from all your friends you lose motivation to actually do the task.
So is it better not to tell anyone if you want to make some changes in your life? Not based on other groups that suggests peer pressure works. Also it might look dodgy if you’re in a relationship but every Thursday night you have to go “do something”, eventually telling her to “stay off my back” because “you’re suffocating me Samantha.”
This is couldn't be more relevant considering its New Years, everyones favourite time of year for bold resolutions. You get to have the clock set back to zero and have a fresh start - unless you lived through the year 2000 New Year celebration, in which case you’re stuck in a hellish Groundhog Year forever feeling like 1998 wasn’t that long ago.
Just to change things up, here is an amazing song called resolution.
I love making resolutions too, in fact if I’d stuck to the resolutions I’d made over New Years I would be a salsa dancing, Spanish/Japanese/French/Chinese speaking, guitar and violin playing, skydiving bodybuilder/author/poet with training in ju jitsu and karate. My days would involve meditation in the morning and charity in the evenings in between teaching my many skills to others so that can join me on the path to betterment. Instead I had to delete Kingdom Rush Origins from my iPhone this morning because it kept me in bed until 1pm - not that I had anything to get up for.
Failing New Years resolutions is not rare, there are studies proving how few people stick to them. People think this is a good reason to make fun of them by saying things like “haha Mr. Personal Growth” or “New Years resoloser”, Christmas lunch with the family can be rough.
People even make fun of choosing such a cliche date, saying you can start any time, but thats just silly. You need a clear start date, no one is sticking to a resolution they made on Tuesday March 17th. Thats why you always hear about people using months as their starting points for making changes; No-drink November, Dry December, Just-one January, Fewer-drinks February, Midstrength-only March, At-most-4-beers-a-day April - and so on until Oktoberfest.
Let people tease New Years resolutions from their smug towers of refusing to make a change. Luckily its not like you will listen to them, after all, if anyone listened to what anyone else said then we would’ve done something about climate change much earlier. Instead why not take advice on how to actually achieve a resolution for once.
I think I’m going to learn Spanish.